I have posted this question to some of my groups, but wanted to post it here as well. I often struggle with this.
First, How do you meet the needs of 2 or more children when they want different and often conflicting things? For example, today dd (4) wanted me to sit and watch a movie with her. DD (7) wanted me to make her some lunch. I did end up doing both, but narrowly avoided a meltdown by dd (4) because her attention was mainly with the movie. The meltdown came a few minutes later when I brought the girls lunch. Apparently dd (4) didn't want mac and cheese. In fact, she wasn't hungry. She was thirsty. I had brought her water, but she wanted sprite. I felt that I handled that decently though. I just turned around, went back to the kitchen, put the mac & cheese on the counter and got the sprite. I do think that I could have done it with more love though.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
The last few days
Well, it has been about a week now since I posted.
We visited the ILs for Thanksgiving on Thursday which was really pleasant, except we missed cousin Izik who was at his dad's. We did get to see baby Tommy though. Here are the girls and baby Tommy.
He's getting to be so big. Here he was after he was first born.
On Saturday the girls were spending the night with my mom so dh and I cleaned the whole house and it was looking pretty awesome. I cleaned out my sewing room and took pictures of my workspace to post (sometimes it is fun to look at other people's spaces for ideas). So, here they are. Click on the thumbnails for a bigger view.
This week we have just been doing the usual, whatever happens to come up. Marti played Furcadia for 12 hours yesterday. I have to admit, some of the folks on the game have seriously irritated me. This one time several people made copies of my daughter's character with slightly different names. All these "Lia"s (my daughter's character) were going around being rude to her and to other people. We wrote to Furcadia about it and got no response.
Then, yesterday this 17 year old boy told "me" (I was playing my daughter's character at the moment) that he was going to find me and kill me, then when I brought it up a minute later he denied saying that and called me a liar. I was pretty pissed, but it didn't seem to bother dd very much so I just let her keep playing after telling her that I thought it was rude and mean and that she should just walk away from anyone being that mean to her.
I think she thought I was going to take the game away. I have done that in the past, but this time I didn't. She got "bored" with the game about 9pm last night. When she got up this morning she got back on Furcadia almost right away, but was bored with it within the hour. It was nice because we finally got a chance to connect with her today. She has been spending a lot of time on Furcadia and refusing to come and join us in what we are doing (which is perfectly fine, I was just missing her (I know I could have joined her, but that is a whole nother issue that I don't have time to discuss in this blog today.)).
Today she played some Phantasy Star on the Game Cube with Daddy. They started out by having to figure out what the best name would be because certain names (letters are assigned numbers) are best for finding certain cool items. I understand what dh was saying about it and got involved with helping pick a name, but it's hard for ME to explain in writing.
They tried Lara El (dh is a HUGE Superman fan), Marta El (a version of Marti's name) and Lila (pronounced Lil-a, a version of Lilly) El, but not of them worked the way they wanted to. The final name ended up being "Lila(space)El(space)" which got her an Oran (Orange) section ID which was best for finding daggers.
The kids also did a lot of jumping on the trampolene today since it was actually dry today.
So long for now, I have to get ready for class.
We visited the ILs for Thanksgiving on Thursday which was really pleasant, except we missed cousin Izik who was at his dad's. We did get to see baby Tommy though. Here are the girls and baby Tommy.
He's getting to be so big. Here he was after he was first born.
On Saturday the girls were spending the night with my mom so dh and I cleaned the whole house and it was looking pretty awesome. I cleaned out my sewing room and took pictures of my workspace to post (sometimes it is fun to look at other people's spaces for ideas). So, here they are. Click on the thumbnails for a bigger view.
This week we have just been doing the usual, whatever happens to come up. Marti played Furcadia for 12 hours yesterday. I have to admit, some of the folks on the game have seriously irritated me. This one time several people made copies of my daughter's character with slightly different names. All these "Lia"s (my daughter's character) were going around being rude to her and to other people. We wrote to Furcadia about it and got no response.
Then, yesterday this 17 year old boy told "me" (I was playing my daughter's character at the moment) that he was going to find me and kill me, then when I brought it up a minute later he denied saying that and called me a liar. I was pretty pissed, but it didn't seem to bother dd very much so I just let her keep playing after telling her that I thought it was rude and mean and that she should just walk away from anyone being that mean to her.
I think she thought I was going to take the game away. I have done that in the past, but this time I didn't. She got "bored" with the game about 9pm last night. When she got up this morning she got back on Furcadia almost right away, but was bored with it within the hour. It was nice because we finally got a chance to connect with her today. She has been spending a lot of time on Furcadia and refusing to come and join us in what we are doing (which is perfectly fine, I was just missing her (I know I could have joined her, but that is a whole nother issue that I don't have time to discuss in this blog today.)).
Today she played some Phantasy Star on the Game Cube with Daddy. They started out by having to figure out what the best name would be because certain names (letters are assigned numbers) are best for finding certain cool items. I understand what dh was saying about it and got involved with helping pick a name, but it's hard for ME to explain in writing.
They tried Lara El (dh is a HUGE Superman fan), Marta El (a version of Marti's name) and Lila (pronounced Lil-a, a version of Lilly) El, but not of them worked the way they wanted to. The final name ended up being "Lila(space)El(space)" which got her an Oran (Orange) section ID which was best for finding daggers.
The kids also did a lot of jumping on the trampolene today since it was actually dry today.
So long for now, I have to get ready for class.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Goal: No complaining & More pics
A few of my friends and I are working on 21 days of no complaining. Man, what a chore it is becoming. Monday was day one. Tuesday was day one. Today was day two. Tomorrow is day one again, lol!
What we are doing is based on these websites.
Watch Your Language
Going Complaint Free
I was also reading on Sandra Dodd's website yesterday or the day before on her "Parenting Peacefully" page and stumbled on a quote by Ren Allen that finally made me "get" how to get myself to change for the better.
"I think in previous times, I was always fighting myself to try and change. That doesn't work so well. Mindfulness does change what you react to, but it happens so quietly and naturally you hardly realize it. A moment happens that is so drastically different than how you would have reacted in the past and it's almost like a slap (a good slap) and you're thinking "WOW"."
I even had a discussion with my best friend about these subjects last night that was ME giving HER advice, but I think that it was just as enlightening for me because now I know that I DO "get it".
Anyway,
Here is a couple more pictures of our local happenings.
This is the girls enjoying our latest Freecycle gift, a 15ft trampolene. They adore it of course!
And here is Marti last night showing off the Sudoku that she completed (with my help). We worked on one of these a few months ago and I am ashamed to say I pushed her too much, but this one she accomplished with no pressure.
What we are doing is based on these websites.
Watch Your Language
Going Complaint Free
I was also reading on Sandra Dodd's website yesterday or the day before on her "Parenting Peacefully" page and stumbled on a quote by Ren Allen that finally made me "get" how to get myself to change for the better.
"I think in previous times, I was always fighting myself to try and change. That doesn't work so well. Mindfulness does change what you react to, but it happens so quietly and naturally you hardly realize it. A moment happens that is so drastically different than how you would have reacted in the past and it's almost like a slap (a good slap) and you're thinking "WOW"."
I even had a discussion with my best friend about these subjects last night that was ME giving HER advice, but I think that it was just as enlightening for me because now I know that I DO "get it".
Anyway,
Here is a couple more pictures of our local happenings.
This is the girls enjoying our latest Freecycle gift, a 15ft trampolene. They adore it of course!
And here is Marti last night showing off the Sudoku that she completed (with my help). We worked on one of these a few months ago and I am ashamed to say I pushed her too much, but this one she accomplished with no pressure.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Pictures
I want this blog to be about us finding our way into radical unschooling. For now, we are going to start with pictures to show what we have been up to lately.
This was back in September, but it was a density experiment that Marti, Lilly and I did together. It didn't turn out exactly like the directions said it would, which made it even more awesome because we got to talk about why it didn't turn out that way. It was a lot of fun.
Here is some pictures from a "growing" experiment that we did. We got some creatures (alligator and two fish) from a "Chemistry Day" at our local museum and put them in water like we were told. We left them there for about 2 weeks. Then we took them out to let them dry up so we could put them back in the water to see if they would grow faster the second time. We haven't gotten (we keep forgetting to get) the water (has to be distilled) so we haven't done the second part yet.
Day One Day Two
Day Three Day Five
At the beginning of November we went to our local museum, which is currently host to The Magic Schoolbus Kicks Up A Storm. They really enjoyed being Weather "women" so we have started making our own backgrounds to attach to our very large television so they can stand in front of them and forecast the weather while being videotaped (the camera at the museum doesn't actually tape, just allows them to be viewed on a screen above).
Here is Marti casting the weather for the US
And Lilly being the camera girl (which she adored more than being IN FRONT of the camera). She even looks like a little director, doesn't she?
On November 5th, I got up early (5:15 am EST) to check the skies for this event. We had nothing but cloud cover. I was really bummed, but thankful I hadn't woken the girls so they could see "cloud cover".
I checked again at 6:30 am and most of the cloud cover had gone away so I woke everyone up.
We got to see the moon, Venus (which I had actually been seeing for several days out the bathroom window and didn't know it), Saturn, Regulus, and we are pretty sure we got to see Mars. We all enjoyed getting to see the planets before the cloud cover hit again.
Here is a picture of the moon and Venus.
Lastly for today, on November 11th we moved the couch out in my daughters' bedroom and found a hibernating (well we assume it was trying to hibernate) bat which led to discussions of hibernation (of course), bats, bat habitats (including our house), and even fear (mom and girls are afraid of bats). It also reminded the girls of the time we had a raccoon in our house. I will have to remember to have them dictate that story sometime for you. Perhaps in video.
Here is the pic of the hibernating bat.
This was back in September, but it was a density experiment that Marti, Lilly and I did together. It didn't turn out exactly like the directions said it would, which made it even more awesome because we got to talk about why it didn't turn out that way. It was a lot of fun.
Here is some pictures from a "growing" experiment that we did. We got some creatures (alligator and two fish) from a "Chemistry Day" at our local museum and put them in water like we were told. We left them there for about 2 weeks. Then we took them out to let them dry up so we could put them back in the water to see if they would grow faster the second time. We haven't gotten (we keep forgetting to get) the water (has to be distilled) so we haven't done the second part yet.
Day One Day Two
Day Three Day Five
At the beginning of November we went to our local museum, which is currently host to The Magic Schoolbus Kicks Up A Storm. They really enjoyed being Weather "women" so we have started making our own backgrounds to attach to our very large television so they can stand in front of them and forecast the weather while being videotaped (the camera at the museum doesn't actually tape, just allows them to be viewed on a screen above).
Here is Marti casting the weather for the US
And Lilly being the camera girl (which she adored more than being IN FRONT of the camera). She even looks like a little director, doesn't she?
On November 5th, I got up early (5:15 am EST) to check the skies for this event. We had nothing but cloud cover. I was really bummed, but thankful I hadn't woken the girls so they could see "cloud cover".
I checked again at 6:30 am and most of the cloud cover had gone away so I woke everyone up.
We got to see the moon, Venus (which I had actually been seeing for several days out the bathroom window and didn't know it), Saturn, Regulus, and we are pretty sure we got to see Mars. We all enjoyed getting to see the planets before the cloud cover hit again.
Here is a picture of the moon and Venus.
Lastly for today, on November 11th we moved the couch out in my daughters' bedroom and found a hibernating (well we assume it was trying to hibernate) bat which led to discussions of hibernation (of course), bats, bat habitats (including our house), and even fear (mom and girls are afraid of bats). It also reminded the girls of the time we had a raccoon in our house. I will have to remember to have them dictate that story sometime for you. Perhaps in video.
Here is the pic of the hibernating bat.
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